I want to have a baby ...

Hello dear inhabitants of our beautiful planet, today we'll talk about a topic that sooner or eventually to all our interest and we are involved.

Some already have the other with a dream, others just want to have it and expect to collect what is necessary to realize his dream, we are talking about starting a family ....

But we do not have a traditional family of course, our family model is called Families Homoparentales.

Homoparentales families are those in which one or both partners is gay, this kind of family are a growing reality in our society, in which the concept of family has changed considerably.

The men and women who form after divorce get custody of their children and then began a homosexual relationship. Also lesbian women who decide to have children outside of traditional marriage, and raising alone or with the participation of others.

The sense of family and consideration as a basic institution of society is still in place, although they have modified their structures and diversified forms of cohabitation, which has given rise to new models.

Clear that this kind of families still do not enjoy the social recognition and sometimes arouse suspicion when they are not with phobias and marginalization.

So when we decided to have a family with our partner we have to take into account these things, and have clear our options..

Until not long ago most of the lesbian mothers had taken their childrens through heterosexual sex beforehand. Lately more and more to gain as their childrens in lesbian couples.

The alternatives are to be mothers, adoption, insemination with donor insemination with known and anonymous donor. None of these alternatives is good or bad in itself. All have particular advantages and disadvantages that it's okay to analyze.

Clearly, this is a point of view and there may be others. Anyway, we all love to hear their views.

Neither option provides legal figures for the non-biological mother or adopter. For that we still need much more than a symbolic Civil Union.

Adoption

It is one of the least used. At least I do not know of any story about adoption of lesbian mothers.

Advantages:

1. There are no differences in terms of biological motherhood.

2. For some people the process of adoption is positive in itself.

Disadvantages:

1. Adopt legally in most countries it is almost a miracle, and I say to the obstacles that often put the bodies in charge of grant, the practice remains automatically deny adoption if it is discovered or sensed the applicant's homosexuality. So we must take a lot of lucky to be able to do so.

Insemination with donor known

It is agreed to the donation of sperm with a friend or relative. Insemination can be homemade (using a syringe with no needle) or with the help of a professional in a medical office.

Advantages:

1. There are various agreements. The child could have two mothers and one biological father. You can also agree on other roles nearby, not necessarily the father.

2. You know who is the introduced genetic material.

3. In the future your childrens has the chance to know their biological origins.

4. If you know the right person might be extended family.

Disadvantages:

1. Some of us do not want a father to our / your daughter / you. We want to be just two moms (or perhaps one) and we believe that there are three crowd. It would be something like reconceptualize and think new family models.

2. Perhaps the donor is a great person, but there is a possibility that is moved by seeing the baby and realizes that wants to be a father. Or evaluate who wants to take desiciones in the life of children, or who wants to spend more time with him / her. If the donor repents of the agreement can claim their rights in court. And justice for nothing more poignant than a biological father.

Insemination with anonymous donor:

It seems to be the star of the moment. The epicenter of BabyLesBoom...

Advantages:

1. There is potential biological father who can claim for their rights.

2. Drastically reduces the chances of contracting any virus, infection, disease, and so on. .

3. It is an opportunity to explain the birth of an alternative family. Clearly, this requires the endorsement of a collective discourse that is just emerging.

Disadvantages:

1. We must have a sum of money that may prove difficult to collect.

2. We must overcome the hostility of half does not always prepared to receive them

3. A few girls seems complicated that future childrens want to know their biological roots and can not tell you that most of the sperm bank or the anonymous donor.

Well girls once assessed the possibilities, this decision in each pair ...

Go deep into this later, because we have received emails and questions on this subject which will try to solve and help as we can.

Try to put some sort of guide to how to proceed and advice on this topic, researching things that are going to share it with all articles, medical advances and experiences of those who have gone through this.

As always, I say, write, tell us their experiences, their doubts, what they want to find here in this Blog, all you want to find here on this or any other issue that wish to speak, because as I always say this is a Blog all, we do it all, and for all that is the goal of this Blog, we have all our space with things that we need and we want to know, a place to share and enjoy.

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