Hi dear friends of LesPlanet all know that Christmas festivities are for the vast majority of people in the world happier times, family and memorable year. But for some people is a time of tension and to test family ties.
What about those who besides Lesbian coming out has to come to her house between colored lights and cousins, aunts and nephews prepared to ask questions and look to face strange?
If I decide that it is better to keep quiet and let I Dec ads or without major disturbances, we have to pass separate from your partner, and the person you love these days? Or the best decision is to present to the bride as a friend to the orphan who is given a seat at the table, poor as we are going to leave it alone at Christmas?
For us the only decision that is taken at parties is not only if we take cider or champagne, we must also choose how to share the evening filled with the words "Congratulations", "finally all together" or "I am proud that my children ". And you thought .... Happy? because with this weight that I have within me without being able to share it I do not feel well. Together? .... the woman who loved is not me .... Proud? .... still feeling well if you knew that I am a lesbian?
The other side of the coin is that it put the whole truth, in addition to the wine on the table. Those who have, as I am an open relationship. We can share table at Christmas, but not everything is as nice as it sounds.
It is produced what I know would say subtle discrimination ... as can be, to see my son-in-law that this is bigger at this dad, for my daughter-in-law that this is very tasty, and your friend put it to the left over .... or I have to finish the dishes gala dinner services, you do not mind not? I bring this all day .... and you view and say you will, no problem. (And for your girlfriend with a frozen smile on your lips and your eyes ... telling Ayyy honey, everything that I love you but be run in the dining chinese food in house)
Lesbian couples always suffer a lot to be excluded, and that's why we try to appreciate the attempt integrating adapt and endure're ignoring things for the sake of your partner. We are more family friendly as they say, or at least we know swallow and survive without dinner from 24 per indigestible gesture of evil stepfather or the mother-in-law. (For the sake of our own health jajaja)
But the problem appears when sexuality remains hidden. And you and your "friend", dine together, at the home of some of the families and are tense all the time, and thinking, I have looked bad, you know something?, Or start with the questions indiscreet to know this because your "friend "Dinner with you and not with her family ... and have a boyfriend?, her parents get along? If you do not know is that neither you nor to go where your "friend" and they do not know that answer either.
And finally is the worst situation is when and in spite of knowing and meet your partner for several reasons, resentments, fights of the family with your partner there is no way to reconcile the parties and therefore can not sit at the same table and you stay with your poker face and saying that now? because your family did not give his arm a twist and your partner with absolutely right either, so it is finally decided that it is best to stay at home from families, the two having dinner alone with your dog (if you have one) and try to spend the holidays without much concern when you see all the happiness in the world to house your family and knowing that your not going to be ... and that they care much either.
And last but not least important, are those with the syndrome the Grinch have a couple but , hate Christmas and do not want to pass it or the couple or with family and make as if these parties were like any other day, leaving that your partner will go with your family and your quedandote alone at home watching TV or reading a book as if it were a normal day, that this case is a clear choice and does not have any feeling of unhappiness.
Despite all that we included in either case, what we should do is pass the best parties that affect us without any prejudice to our families and our loved ones and think that next Christmas will be another story.
What about those who besides Lesbian coming out has to come to her house between colored lights and cousins, aunts and nephews prepared to ask questions and look to face strange?
If I decide that it is better to keep quiet and let I Dec ads or without major disturbances, we have to pass separate from your partner, and the person you love these days? Or the best decision is to present to the bride as a friend to the orphan who is given a seat at the table, poor as we are going to leave it alone at Christmas?
For us the only decision that is taken at parties is not only if we take cider or champagne, we must also choose how to share the evening filled with the words "Congratulations", "finally all together" or "I am proud that my children ". And you thought .... Happy? because with this weight that I have within me without being able to share it I do not feel well. Together? .... the woman who loved is not me .... Proud? .... still feeling well if you knew that I am a lesbian?
The other side of the coin is that it put the whole truth, in addition to the wine on the table. Those who have, as I am an open relationship. We can share table at Christmas, but not everything is as nice as it sounds.
It is produced what I know would say subtle discrimination ... as can be, to see my son-in-law that this is bigger at this dad, for my daughter-in-law that this is very tasty, and your friend put it to the left over .... or I have to finish the dishes gala dinner services, you do not mind not? I bring this all day .... and you view and say you will, no problem. (And for your girlfriend with a frozen smile on your lips and your eyes ... telling Ayyy honey, everything that I love you but be run in the dining chinese food in house)
Lesbian couples always suffer a lot to be excluded, and that's why we try to appreciate the attempt integrating adapt and endure're ignoring things for the sake of your partner. We are more family friendly as they say, or at least we know swallow and survive without dinner from 24 per indigestible gesture of evil stepfather or the mother-in-law. (For the sake of our own health jajaja)
But the problem appears when sexuality remains hidden. And you and your "friend", dine together, at the home of some of the families and are tense all the time, and thinking, I have looked bad, you know something?, Or start with the questions indiscreet to know this because your "friend "Dinner with you and not with her family ... and have a boyfriend?, her parents get along? If you do not know is that neither you nor to go where your "friend" and they do not know that answer either.
And finally is the worst situation is when and in spite of knowing and meet your partner for several reasons, resentments, fights of the family with your partner there is no way to reconcile the parties and therefore can not sit at the same table and you stay with your poker face and saying that now? because your family did not give his arm a twist and your partner with absolutely right either, so it is finally decided that it is best to stay at home from families, the two having dinner alone with your dog (if you have one) and try to spend the holidays without much concern when you see all the happiness in the world to house your family and knowing that your not going to be ... and that they care much either.
And last but not least important, are those with the syndrome the Grinch have a couple but , hate Christmas and do not want to pass it or the couple or with family and make as if these parties were like any other day, leaving that your partner will go with your family and your quedandote alone at home watching TV or reading a book as if it were a normal day, that this case is a clear choice and does not have any feeling of unhappiness.
Despite all that we included in either case, what we should do is pass the best parties that affect us without any prejudice to our families and our loved ones and think that next Christmas will be another story.
Since LesPlanet we wish you all that your have the best Christmas in the company of your girlfriend and family (if possible).
Inspired: SentidoG
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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays LesPlanet!!!!
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