The Christmas festivities that beautiful ...

Hi dear friends of LesPlanet all know that Christmas festivities are for the vast majority of people in the world happier times, family and memorable year. But for some people is a time of tension and to test family ties.

What about those who besides Lesbian coming out has to come to her house between colored lights and cousins, aunts and nephews prepared to ask questions and look to face strange?

If I decide that it is better to keep quiet and let I Dec ads or without major disturbances, we have to pass separate from your partner, and the person you love these days? Or the best decision is to present to the bride as a friend to the orphan who is given a seat at the table, poor as we are going to leave it alone at Christmas?

For us the only decision that is taken at parties is not only if we take cider or champagne, we must also choose how to share the evening filled with the words "Congratulations", "finally all together" or "I am proud that my children ". And you thought .... Happy? because with this weight that I have within me without being able to share it I do not feel well. Together? .... the woman who loved is not me .... Proud? .... still feeling well if you knew that I am a lesbian?

The other side of the coin is that it put the whole truth, in addition to the wine on the table. Those who have, as I am an open relationship. We can share table at Christmas, but not everything is as nice as it sounds.

It is produced what I know would say subtle discrimination ... as can be, to see my son-in-law that this is bigger at this dad, for my daughter-in-law that this is very tasty, and your friend put it to the left over .... or I have to finish the dishes gala dinner services, you do not mind not? I bring this all day .... and you view and say you will, no problem. (And for your girlfriend with a frozen smile on your lips and your eyes ... telling Ayyy honey, everything that I love you but be run in the dining chinese food in house)

Lesbian couples always suffer a lot to be excluded, and that's why we try to appreciate the attempt integrating adapt and endure're ignoring things for the sake of your partner. We are more family friendly as they say, or at least we know swallow and survive without dinner from 24 per indigestible gesture of evil stepfather or the mother-in-law. (For the sake of our own health jajaja)

But the problem appears when sexuality remains hidden. And you and your "friend", dine together, at the home of some of the families and are tense all the time, and thinking, I have looked bad, you know something?, Or start with the questions indiscreet to know this because your "friend "Dinner with you and not with her family ... and have a boyfriend?, her parents get along? If you do not know is that neither you nor to go where your "friend" and they do not know that answer either.

And finally is the worst situation is when and in spite of knowing and meet your partner for several reasons, resentments, fights of the family with your partner there is no way to reconcile the parties and therefore can not sit at the same table and you stay with your poker face and saying that now? because your family did not give his arm a twist and your partner with absolutely right either, so it is finally decided that it is best to stay at home from families, the two having dinner alone with your dog (if you have one) and try to spend the holidays without much concern when you see all the happiness in the world to house your family and knowing that your not going to be ... and that they care much either.

And last but not least important, are those with the syndrome the Grinch have a couple but , hate Christmas and do not want to pass it or the couple or with family and make as if these parties were like any other day, leaving that your partner will go with your family and your quedandote alone at home watching TV or reading a book as if it were a normal day, that this case is a clear choice and does not have any feeling of unhappiness.

Despite all that we included in either case, what we should do is pass the best parties that affect us without any prejudice to our families and our loved ones and think that next Christmas will be another story.

Since LesPlanet we wish you all that your have the best Christmas in the company of your girlfriend and family (if possible).

Inspired: SentidoG

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Mothers no more than two ...

Hi dear friends, we have good news, it was about time, in Spain now we may be biological mother the two. (your and your partner, jejeje).

It turns out that The National Commission on Assisted Reproduction has given its approval to the use of ova among lesbian marriages.

So far, no can exchanged ovules between the couple because there was a loophole in the law on assisted reproduction from 2006. The committee met on Dec. 4 to decide on a particular case, where two lesbians married claiming to be two biological mothers, as a pregnant woman and the other making her ovule. They filed a formal application before the commission in order to fertilize an ovule from one of the moms with sperm from an anonymous donor and implant the resulting embryo in the womb of another mother.

The law of assisted reproduction demanded that both the ovule and the sperm came from anonymous donors (to not have problems with custody of the baby). In the case of a heterosexual couple assumed an exception, but for nothing was the case in a lesbian couple.

But from now it may do, so you know girls, at last, we can be both biological mothers and be protected by law. It is a big step, to see these things, I still believe that equality will be possible some day soon. (Come to procreate jejejeje).

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Mothers for two... a new model of family

Hi dear friends, I wanted to share with you an interview conducted by Aldo Fernandez Turitich in Ag magazine, a pair of lesbian mothers, the birth mother Rome Triana and her partner, they are part of a family Homoparental of Buenos Aires (Argentina) and have published a book called "Mothers by two."

In this era where the number of families homoparentales, is increasing, we must realize the importance of this type of family in society, the influence that cause in the environment, also be aware of that rejection may suffer children, by society.

In my particular case, I must say I was lucky enough not to feel that rejection at any time, I like Triana, I live with my partner and her daughter (our), at school, in the neighborhood, with neighbors, with their friends, I am a mother, and she has two mothers, and says it without any fear and with all the naturalness of the world, (I am the mother of her sweetheart) and their friends and parents of her friends accept it with complete naturalness , Just with those closest spoke on the topic, with the remainder (and see that I know all parents of the girl in my class) there is no need to talk, you know, what they suspect is not asked, there is tacit knowledge, but accept it with complete naturalness. And now the little 11-year-old has not had any problems. knows she has a family different from the rest, but she is happy and that she likes.

I think it is important that families look homoparentales the place we deserve in society, a place with the same rights, and the same opportunities as other families, where children grow up, happy to develop their personality freely, without prejudice, far away of the bad reviews and rejection of some people.

So I think I would leave them with being interviewed, to reflect on this issue, because although some now, are not part of a family homoparental, sure ...... that in future it will. Why do girls all want to start a family at some point in our lives, sooner or later that time will come. and we know that our families are not like the rest:).

This is a part of the conversation that has the small Tato 5 years ago with Triana his "godmother":

Tato: You do not know what love is because you never fell in love ...

Triana: How not! I fell in love with your mother ...

Tato: How my mom! ?

Triana: Yes ... I fell in love with your mother ...

Tato: But mom and you are two women ... What a mess! ...

Triana: Why mess?

Tato: Because society does not allow two women in love (words of Tato five years) currently has 6 years

This conversation between Tato and one of their moms-Triana-arises when Tato told her in confidence that he was in love with a mate from kindergarten.

Tato today has six years, attends the first grade of Primary School and lives in the neighborhood of Congreso in Buenos Aires with his little brother, 3 months and his two moms: Triana and Rome.

How do you react when Tato said that "society does not allow two women will in love"?

Rome: I told him I wanted the best for his brother and for him and that tomorrow might choose with whom to share life, like me, and that could be guided by the heart.

I imagine that, as well as Tato strip phrases rather strong, it must also address the theme of living in a family homoparental with a lot innocence ...

Yes, one day I had bought two rings because Triana had met with ten years of being together. They waved and told him they were going to give Triana to celebrate our union. He took the rings and put them on a pillow. When Triana arrive he said: "Well ... now that I'm bigger, I'm going to marry you, because they do not leave to marry outside." First he handed the ring to Triana and told her: "You gonna be all life next to mom, but sometimes she is bad and even get sick." Triana, crying, replied: yes

Then he handed the ring to me and asked me if I would be with Triana also a lifetime. I said yes. So on this day, that day was asked Tato, in this day declare the Nov. 11 "woman and woman," he said.

How do to set the rules of coexistence? ... Because it's not the same degree of authority that has the mother who has a godmother, for example.

Triana to the truth that served her well have shared with other families of the group Families Homoparentales. It is true that the role of mother and godmother is different. For example, Triana said to Tato always what I was saying that he had to accomplish, that I had to do in any case. The phrase that Triana loved was: "It got to be respected because she is going to be with you always, I can say anything but your mother does not ....".

Honestly, how do you feel with this difference in roles?

At first I wondered how did Triana to endure and stay on the sidelines, how they stand to Tato not told her: Mom. As we speak, and I confessed their fears about the "outside" by the view of society, she was afraid that if Tato said it had two moms, they mocked him and treated him as strange. A Triana helped a lot to talk with two moms who are under the same conditions as us, namely that one of the two is not the biological mother.

What facts to bother Triana today?

At the moment, to Triana bothers that much, for example, Tato not tell mom. In addition, Tato sometimes asks me to leave me alone to do things and the Triana sidelined. But these things are supported by my father. In fact, my father did not recognize the place that has Triana in my life.

And your mother?

My mother was also accepted over time that we are family. When we wanted a baby with Triana went to the doctor and ask that the baby appeared to Triana, I mean that the baby will blond, clear-eyed, my mother said that what we were doing was an aberration .... then my mother and apologized to us, today gives us a gift to each one for Mother's Day.

What efforts have you to do that Triana is the place it deserves in the family?

I meant a lot in time to recognize that Triana would like to take its rightful place, she began to raise why could not it also call mom, or why not asked her opinion too. Because I was driving alone taking decisions. Triana was so I started to ask for more participation. It's hard to resign this unique place as a single mother who I was. I meant analysis time and moments of anguish, but on the other hand, I was pleased that Triana began occupying their role as mothers.

Specifically ¿what had to stop doing?

Activities and places to Triana starting to deal: I stopped going to meetings of the school. Triana is a woman with a great capacity to show affection. Play with children. On the contrary, I am very boring. So balancing. Triana is responsible, for example, the tasks of the school, the activities of karate.

Have you ever thought what would happen in the event of a breakdown in the relationship in relation to possession of the children?

We were apart for seven months, when Tato was 2 years. It was a crisis in the couple. Tato went to the home of Triana around the time of separation. Today I do not know ... maybe I quit wasting; for Tato, Triana is the sun. However, in the strictly legal aspect, Triana has no right, the coverage is nothing.

Do you think then that there should be a law that contemplates the families homoparentales?

Yes. We signed a document before a notary who said that just in case something happens to me, Triana can be taken care of the children, unfortunately in Argentina are not allowed to do otherwise. And this, if anyone in my family calls tenure. For example, my father, during the placement of the second birth, I came to say that if Tato went Triana, will stays to that kind of "particular people," I told him that that particular people are people like me, gay .. .

I think my father did not even take my reality and my sexual preference. Today he is the most problematic. In contrast, my mother who is accepting the situation of families homoparentales say that all women are lesbians but says she thinks that the only authentic Triana is a lesbian because fixes roofs, and repairs things, for Mother's Day is Gift a knife to the barbecue, I do not know yet what it has to idea that lesbians. She associates my lesbianism to what I what I intend to achieve, the fight for something.

Does the fact that it had too many drawbacks not be related to the fact that certain circles where you've chosen to be fully visible?

If you can be ... My father, for instance, knows nothing of the book "Mothers by two" and yes, this has to do with the issue of visibility, because it would cause much modesty to him if he learns from the book, Furtheris my work situation.

Source: Ag magazine

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Maternity by artificial insemination...

Hi LesPlanet's friends, along with the articles of lesbian motherhood that started in a previous post, after having seen the alternatives we have to be able to have a family with our partner, usually the majority opted for artificial insemination with either known or father unknown.

Then let us explain that this is the Artificial Insemination and that types of insemination exist.

Types of Insemination

Artificial insemination is a technique used to produce fertilization between an oocyte or egg and a sperm for the purpose of achieving conception. According to the characterizations usual types of insemination would be defined by the origin of semen or the cavity where the semen is deposited.

There are two types of inseminations linked to the origin of semen:

1) insemination with sperm from known donor.

2) insemination with sperm from anonymous donor.

In the first case with fresh sperm, washed (selects the sperm with greater mobility and centrifuged to separate the seminal plasma of other infectious particles) and the insemination was performed a few minutes later.

In the second case, the insemination is done with anonymous sperm cryopreserved, that is, material (pre-washing) and frozen for use at the time of ovulation. Also there are three other types related to the place where the practice:

1) Intrauterine

2) Intracervical

3) Intravaginal.

IUI. During the IUI, or intrauterine insemination sperm are introduced (in a gel) into the uterus through a thin cannula sterilized. The technique on the sperm to the fallopian tubes. This shortens the distance increasing the likelihood of success. The success rate estimated to stimulation between 10 and 20 per cent per cycle, increasing in each cycle.

The cost of intrauterine insemination varies widely depending on the state in which the procedure is performed. In general, the cost of intrauterine insemination can reach or even exceed $ 5000. This figure includes the cost of consultations and visits pre-and post-insemination, the medication for fertility, the processing of sperm and the insemination itself.

ICI. The IntraCervical insemination (ICI) is the placement of sperm into the neck of the uterus through a catheter sterile fine with the intention of traveling to the uterus to fertilize an egg. It is more economical than IUI but is less effective for the longest distance that the sperm must travel. A typical procedure could cost between $ 2000 to $ 3000.

IVI. Intravaginal insemination in the semen is deposited in the vagina, is the most economical, although it is estimated that the chances of effectiveness down even more. All procedures require the advice, control and supervision of a / a female fertility specialist.

All you need to be cover the costs of medical equipment required for this procedure dischargeable. The costs could reach $ 500 if you prefer to use a sperm donor or if you'd like taking medication to improve fertility.

All practices require a washing of semen except intravaginal insemination, which can be done with full semen. There are several techniques for washing seminal, the most widely used is the Swim Up, but also used the gradient density and filtering by fiberglass. By Swim Up isolate themselves and sort the sperm with increased mobility. It uses a computer that the centrifuge seminal fluid separating the plasma and other infectious particles. The sperm that amount are considered the best, that material is mixed with other liquids depending on the type of insemination.

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Decalogue for coming out the closet...

Hi girls, today you put this article that we found and we find interesting and can you guide to take the plunge if they do not even have given of the closet or what is the same raise awareness of your sexual orientation. Come on, tell people in your circles close (family, friends, work) that you are gay. Obviously it is not an obligation ... But sometimes it is necessary to do so.

1. Do not make a catastrophe of the case.

You can not know the reaction that will have people once you leave the cabinet. The reaction can be good or bad, but you're not god and can not know beforehand. People are often surprised: can you are angry or embarrassed, but also fit reactions of surprise, pride in having a child, brother, friend or so, and even relief that finally the participants do something that we intuit. ..

2 .- Do a test.

Prepare a relatively manageable you as a reference for future outings. For example, is a good way to leave your best friend. I do not think it makes sense to maintain a deep friendship if we do not share such an important part of your life, so perhaps worthwhile start there.

In addition, friends can serve as a pillar or support essential for future outings. Tell you have to be to tell an essential aspect as well as complicated your life (or your sexuality), you want to share with him or her (as will an idea of where you are).

She noted his reaction. If it shows receptive and wanting to know, continues. If it shows elusive or seeks to avoid the situation, it might be worth trying with another person (or even change you friends!).

3 .- Look at the reactions of others.

If people react angrily or aggressively, or do not want to hear what you're counting, not continue. They are in their right not to want to listen. Above all, do not be put at their level. If you shout, not shout; if alter and anger not do the same. Shout of them is not a good way to keep the mind clear and firm, which is precisely what you need at a time like this.

4 .- Family and friends first?.

It's a personal decision. Some have begun by her best friend because she understood that, otherwise, the friendship would not have value, being disingenuous. But we also know people who started by her family, because she understood that those who have brought the world should be better able to understand and accept. Others did so with a brother or sister who later helped when it came to tell the parents.

5 .- How to get the item?.

It seems complicated right? But I can give you several options. You can raise you as I said earlier, as something more or less formal ... "We have to talk about something important" ... but in most cases that I know has emerged spontaneously.

6 .- Who should I tell?.

Here I can not answer. Everyone has designed life as a lesbian, wants to have. I have friends who have only what her sister. Other relatives and friends but kept her working life completely in the closet. And finally only a few (unfortunately) have come out in all spheres of life ...

7 .- Aid.

If you need help look for and ask. Have you taken a good step in this consultation, but may require help. In the network there GLBT most representative associations. They often have clinics or counselor who, at any given time, can be an invaluable aid, more than anything because they are accustomed to seeing these issues one day and another the other ... too.

If you do not have a fence, there are telephones information where you can advise. You could also say you were a psychologist if needed, but it would be good to you before the report of the same opinion about homosexuality, will not you try heal you (unless you think that cure).

There are also some books that can be self-help, have very good titles and addresses many issues of lesbian life, since leaving the cabinet to how to make lesbian relationships work.

.8 .- Grounds.

Examine the reasons you have for the closet. Know why you want to do things can be very helpful. By that I mean that is not the same leave your parents because they want something reproach, to do it because you want to improve your relationship with them.

The same applies to your friends. Above all, take your time. I suppose you've waited a long to reach this situation. Any lesbian comes before or after that need to grab his life by the horns and do something with regard to their sexuality.

(Translation of the photo: "coming out the closet")

No problem by waiting a few days, weeks or even months more, thinking about the same and about all the risks, pros and cons that can lead to the take certain decisions.

Above all it is important that you feel to think about what might happen arrival the situation in order to be ready (for better and for worse) bearing in mind that it is absurd and pointless to worry about things you can not control (such as behaviour that will have others).

9 .- When the time comes.

As understand, we can not answer that question. Everyone is a world, and each outlet is different. It depends on your age and circumstances. However, some people have encountered the following answers:

a) "We say this to do us harm." Faced with this situation helps to know why you do. If they are sincere and based on love, most people should be able to understand the pain you're going (at least over time). If they do not, maybe they are the ones who should ask for help.

b) "Sure it is only a phase. You will know when the right guy." From yours rebut this argument and make it clear that not accept what the stage and that is not passenger.

c) "Oh God! what have we done wrong?. what are we wrong?" Try to be responsible for the fact of being a lesbian. There are so many theories about what causes homosexuality as authors consulted. You know: from the absent parent to genetics. Knowing a few and make it clear that not know the specific causes can avoid blame for your parents is something that should not be blamed

d) "It's a sin ... ... is unnatural, go to hell." Well, yes ... yet we hear things from this style, no matter how close we are the third millennium. Faced with this, knowledge is always the solution. If you are a believer and your religion is opposed to homosexuality, there are religious groups who attempt to offer spiritual support and modern interpretations about the alleged ban on homofilia. You can find them in the various associations GLBT.

e) "We can not understand it. We do not fit on the head that two women can do that." It is, perhaps, something against which you can not do anything, because it is feelings and prejudices, the fruit of years of indoctrination ... To give you an idea is like if you achieve a representation of your parents making love so savage. It seems to be costing the idea, right?.

And is that homosexuality is part of what you are, but also a very intimate and secret of your person. Like not give details of your relationships if they were heterosexual, why do not you give them your homosexual relationships. That is for the privacy of each person.

The only thing you can do is try to dismantle their demons about homosexuality brings clarity and positive images from the endless list of lesbians and gay men along the story until one of modern films, which addresses the issue of how and without desenfadada make a drama of the case.

They also often have support groups for parents associations. Remember that if you do not accept ... thing is ultimately theirs. It is up to them to change their vision. Not you.

10 .- Good Luck

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In England mothers and lesbians have legal value

The British Members voted a law that eliminates the need for a future father for a woman can benefit from artificial insemination. The consequence of this vote, designed to eliminate discrimination against lesbian couples, is the legalization of families with two mothers, according analyzes The Daily Telegraph.

The deputies rejected by 292 votes against and 217 in favour, an amendment calling for the multi-specialty clinics valued the existence of a father before offering their treatments. At ruled that amendment, the text remained government, changing the old requirement of father figure by another more ambiguous that there is "support for the upbringing," so as not to discriminate against single mothers and lesbian couples.

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A new study on homosexuality and family

New Dutch study has concluded that children raised in a family consisting of two lesbians are not affected their welfare. Researchers at the University of Amsterdam worked with 100 families and 100 heterosexual lesbian couples with children whose age range was from 4 to 8 years and who had been reared by the couple since birth.

The study showed that children of lesbian couples remain the same parameters that children of heterosexual couples but have found intriguing differences with parents. Lesbians have a greater level of satisfaction (compared to heterosexual mothers) when it comes to assessing the skills of their partners in terms of caring for his son is concerned. They also have a significantly greater desire to have children as heterosexual couples. Finally (and although the majority it sounds contradictory lesbian stereotypes we see daily in the media) lesbians tend to spend more time with their children at home rather than work outside.

The results of the dutch study are identical to those that have been conducted in the USA… healthy children grow into loving families, regardless of whether you are comprised of two mothers, or a mother and a father.

In Spain also has conducted a thorough study on the subject that has resulted in the same conclusions. Maria del Mar Rodriguez Gonzalez conducted a study on child and adolescent development in 23 families whose results included homoparents (apart from what has already been discussed) that children of homosexual couples are developed with more positive values such as "greater tolerance, more flexibility in gender roles and greater acceptance of homosexuality.

Further evidence that what matters is the love and affection with which to educate your child, and that encourages us to exercise our fears without motherhood.

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Phases of development lesbian

Source: Lesbians are from another planet Speaking on stage by passing a lesbian in life.

Level 10 "stark reality": one day you lift and you realize that you're lesbian. You may have had an erotic dream - you have happy holiday. It may simply be a mystical revelation. Or you can until you're the "ovaries" from "autodeceive." The fact is that for the first time you say to yourself: "I am a lesbian." Congratulations, welcome to chaos. The degree of suffering: 7

Level 20 "what is beautiful love": is when you realize that you are heterosexual love with your friend. Do not tell you, but you do not mind: you want and you want with that time spent together talking about nonsense. The fact that you want to stick tongue until the bell does not have to be a drawback. You're a lesbian naive and happy. The degree of suffering: 3

Level 30 "the heart parties": your friend no longer talks about heterosexual nonsense… you just talk about John. Now is where John brings a movie (for touching the breasts), is now with John who gives long walks on the beach (for touching the breasts), John is now who will drunk a lot (for touching the breasts). John hated him and wish death. The degree of suffering: 9

Level 40 "affirmation of identity": you can not with life and decides to tell the most intimate. Gradually you realize that this is not the end of the world and what accounts to your siblings, your cousins, your parents… There comes a time when the accounts to anyone who wants earing (tired time, People are fed up earing). Go for the first time the expression of gay pride with a T-shirt with the slogan "roll up the bun." Less naive and not so happy, but you can carry. John has left your ex-girlfriend, who is running to mourn on your shoulder. The send to fry asparagus. The degree of suffering: 2

Level 50 "I am not alone in the world": you need to know that others come from your planet. You get addicted to the Internet and chat lesbians. You know many girls and you realize that they are all fatal head. You have your first Rollet with an unknown and you leave the heart 3 times per week. you have a drink and a bad life. The degree of suffering: 5

Level 60 "putón verbenero/promiscuous": means you're tired of being the virgin chueca and carry more than one year without take a sex. You lees with anyone who will pay (unfortunately, there are few volunteers). Erogenous Zone You learn that you did not know existed or that. Still drunk from Friday to Sunday. Do not deceive, you spend it well but you're not happy. The degree of suffering: 4

Level 70 "already come": you get tired of sex with strangers. You need love and stability in your life. You start to stay sober and come back to your habits of phase 2, when you were naive and happy. You have innocent little less shame, but you're already adapted. Your friends will cheer on the first Monday to get to class or work without a Love-bite on the neck. Your life is relatively normal. The degree of suffering: 1

Level 80 "had to happen": suddenly, the find. You fall in love losting. She falls in love with you (at first you do not think so, but it is well). Live happily ever after. The degree of suffering: 0

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TOPICS ABOUT THE LESBIANS

Source: caught out of hand

1 .- What we have not yet known to man "with a pair ..", or the male Iberian able to return to all women crazy.

2 .- That we are unable to feel some Frigo orgasms.

3 .- That certainly had some traumatic experience (rape, abuse, etc.). In our childhood or adolescence with a man.

4 .- That was our image paternal disastrous or not we had no father and this resulted in us a desire to "be men of the house."

5 .- What we are ugly, fat, even with some Machorro moustache ... we are unable to accept our femininity.

6 .- who hate men.

7 .- What we are extremely jealous, possessive and violent.

8 .- That makes the role "of man" and another "woman" because it is impossible to love if no man.

9 .- What we always used vibrators as we have no penis because we can not have satisfactory relations and therefore we do not have orgasms.

10 .- Let us all dress as a man, take the short hair, etc.. and that we resent the fund with men because his penis envy and that traumatizes us.

11 .- What we are about our relationships and promiscuity do not last more than two or three years.

12 .- What we have adapted and small because our parents were expecting a boy and had to be pleased.

13 .- Let us all like sports.

14 .- Let us all pro-abortion, indecent or narcissistic

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