3 .- Look at the reactions of others.
6 .- Who should I tell?.
Here I can not answer. Everyone has designed life as a lesbian, wants to have. I have friends who have only what her sister. Other relatives and friends but kept her working life completely in the closet. And finally only a few (unfortunately) have come out in all spheres of life ...
7 .- Aid.
If you need help look for and ask. Have you taken a good step in this consultation, but may require help. In the network there GLBT most representative associations. They often have clinics or counselor who, at any given time, can be an invaluable aid, more than anything because they are accustomed to seeing these issues one day and another the other ... too.
(Translation of the photo: "coming out the closet")
No problem by waiting a few days, weeks or even months more, thinking about the same and about all the risks, pros and cons that can lead to the take certain decisions.
Above all it is important that you feel to think about what might happen arrival the situation in order to be ready (for better and for worse) bearing in mind that it is absurd and pointless to worry about things you can not control (such as behaviour that will have others).
9 .- When the time comes.
As understand, we can not answer that question. Everyone is a world, and each outlet is different. It depends on your age and circumstances. However, some people have encountered the following answers:
a) "We say this to do us harm." Faced with this situation helps to know why you do. If they are sincere and based on love, most people should be able to understand the pain you're going (at least over time). If they do not, maybe they are the ones who should ask for help.
b) "Sure it is only a phase. You will know when the right guy." From yours rebut this argument and make it clear that not accept what the stage and that is not passenger.
c) "Oh God! what have we done wrong?. what are we wrong?" Try to be responsible for the fact of being a lesbian. There are so many theories about what causes homosexuality as authors consulted. You know: from the absent parent to genetics. Knowing a few and make it clear that not know the specific causes can avoid blame for your parents is something that should not be blamed
d) "It's a sin ... ... is unnatural, go to hell." Well, yes ... yet we hear things from this style, no matter how close we are the third millennium. Faced with this, knowledge is always the solution. If you are a believer and your religion is opposed to homosexuality, there are religious groups who attempt to offer spiritual support and modern interpretations about the alleged ban on homofilia. You can find them in the various associations GLBT.
e) "We can not understand it. We do not fit on the head that two women can do that." It is, perhaps, something against which you can not do anything, because it is feelings and prejudices, the fruit of years of indoctrination ... To give you an idea is like if you achieve a representation of your parents making love so savage. It seems to be costing the idea, right?.
And is that homosexuality is part of what you are, but also a very intimate and secret of your person. Like not give details of your relationships if they were heterosexual, why do not you give them your homosexual relationships. That is for the privacy of each person.
The only thing you can do is try to dismantle their demons about homosexuality brings clarity and positive images from the endless list of lesbians and gay men along the story until one of modern films, which addresses the issue of how and without desenfadada make a drama of the case.
They also often have support groups for parents associations. Remember that if you do not accept ... thing is ultimately theirs. It is up to them to change their vision. Not you.
10 .- Good Luck